What a blast we had at the NLP Cafe this month! A great mix of people from many different walks of life and business came together for a fun evening of networking and state building. The energy was high and the room a buzz of conversation and laughter.
This snapshot demonstrates a New Code NLP process called ‘Walking with X and Y’ where you get to select two resourceful states you want in a future context. It’s great for building a confident state for presenting or public speaking, interviewing for a new job, writing exams and improving your performance in really any situation in your life.
Demo’ing a New Code NLP process
My guest for the demo was Monika Thurn und Taxis, an actor and artist here in Winnipeg. Monika selected the two states of ‘confident and calm’ for performing in impromptu situations. The exercise takes about 15 minutes and works by physically anchoring two desired states into the body and mind. The next time Monika enters a situation where she does not have time to prepare – she is going to respond the way she wants – confident and calm – in seconds!!
At the beginning of each NLP Cafe there is a networking exericse. The NLP Cafe is a great place to meet new people (some people come just for the networking – it’s that good!). And it’s when the group gets a chance to practice some rapport building skills.
Observing the group during the networking, I was pleasantly reminded of the ‘power of seconds’. What I mean is how in only seconds, people can shift from being fearful to friendly and having fun using simple yet powerful rapport building skills.
Rapport skills are a foundational set of skills coded in the original Classic Code field of NLP dating back to the early 1970’s which if you do the math, NLP has been on the planet for over 40 years! And yet I am still amazed to discover how many people are new to NLP concepts and techniques like building rapport or may have taken some NLP training and forget to use their rapport skills in everyday life.
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“Lost time is never found again.” -Benjamin Franklin
So what does the power of seconds have to do with rapport and changing your state? Well, if you manage or work in a team of people under pressure your time and energy is probably being stolen away by big things like resolving conflicts and troubleshooting problems, isn’t it?
By using the seconds in between these big time energy stealers you can gain a huge amount of leverage in your performance.
To shift your state in seconds all you need to do is re-fire an anchor you set in advance and your body and mind will shift instantly into a new state.
If you ever lose rapport with someone you can regain it in seconds by matching their body posture, breathing, voice quality and language pattern. It’s best to do this subtly which takes practice of course.
Learning and practicing NLP patterns are worth every penny, time and effort. Whether you are leading a team, you are part of a team, or you are an entrepreneur – pay attention to the seconds as leverage points to quickly build and maintain rapport and to change your state. Rapport is the foundation of all positive relationships. Maintaining your state is an art that all leaders master.
When you learn how to use the power of seconds, those micro moments in between managing, troubleshooting, coaching and mentoring you will be a more effective team player, leader, parent, friend and partner. Mastering micro moments give you the leverage to quickly resolve conflict more efficiently and effectively – without the usual sting.
If you want to increase your rapport skills and learn how to shift your state quickly, hone your communication skills, resolve conflict easily, and add to your coaching and mentoring toolbox an NLP Practitioner course may be a good fit for you.
Have a look at the NLP Practitioner course outline
The quickest way to move from learning to knowing is by practicing. With rigorous practice building rapport becomes tacit knowledge a.k.a. second nature. When a skill becomes second nature you will no longer feel awkward or artificial. Instead you will feel more authentic – more naturally yourself. So no matter what the challenge or conflict is you will be more equipped to stay grounded and centered – and simultaneously be compassionate and supportive.
Rapport skills are only the start of learning powerful skills for communicating. Read on the long list of tools and techniques you will learn on the next NLP Practitioner course to be held August 2014 in Winnipeg, Canada.
Watch these videos of past participants who attended the most recent course and hear what they have to say.
Want to know how you can use NLP in your life and business? Got questions about what NLP can do for you? Give me a call or drop me a line.
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Jacquie Nagy
World’s Leading Be Yourself Coach – Motivating self-coaching strategies, tools and techniques to live authentically, confidently and autonomously!
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Jacquie Nagy is Founder of Holistic Directions Inc., and is a Certified NLP Master Practitioner and NLP Trainer, Coach, Speaker in Winnipeg, Canada.