In my business, I meet a lot of people who say they feel stuck. Some are men. Mostly they’re women. As a person fascinated with people I’ve noticed two common threads.
They’re on the precipice of something really, really BIG.
More importantly, they haven’t found a methodology that teaches them HOW to get unstuck – with long lasting staying power.
I’ve also noticed two shared characteristics. They’ve either experienced a tragedy or trauma and haven’t found a way to transition through the pain to the other side (that has staying power). Or they work in a vastly unfulfilling job mostly making other peoples’ dreams come true. They either want to break free, be an entrepreneur and start their own business. Or they’ve started their business and haven’t reached the level of success they desire.
Then I notice one of three things generally happen…
The people dealing with personal trauma give up looking. Despite their best efforts, they don’t find a fix that works long term. And without a fix to help them break through their pain so they can get to the other side, they switch their focus to looking for ways to distract themselves. Usually, these distractions are shallow solutions that feel good only for a short while. Some resort to substances and medication to dull their pain. Overall, they stay stuck.
The people wanting to be an entrepreneur also give up. Despite their best efforts to build their confidence, they shrink back into their comfort zone. They stay in their unfulfilling jobs working for someone else waiting in limbo for retirement.
“As long as a man stands in his own way, everything seems to be in his way.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Then there’s the third group. This is the group that fires me up!